HUFFINGTON POST: ‘Yes, I’m Pretty and I’m Traveling Alone’

via Huffington Post

I can already hear Regina George saying, “So, you think you’re pretty?”, and can imagine the amount of “Is this b*tch seriously complaining about being pretty and traveling?” comments this post will inevitably attract, but trust me, I’ve gotten worse things inferred about me when I travel alone.

You would think that it would be commendable for a young woman to work hard to pay for her own travels, then have the balls to go to another country on her own. Nope. It’s like a freaking international mystery to some people.

Let me solve it for you: I travel alone because I can; I don’t really like waiting around for other people to go with me. I certainly haven’t figured out how to use my face to purchase a plane ticket online, and although many random creepy men have offered plenty of free ones to me, I always decline, because I’d rather travel alone than be used for decoration.

So, to clarify:

1. No, I’m Not A Prostitute

Pretty girl traveling alone in another country typically automatically translates to prostitute. Not joking. If I wear makeup, if I wear anything that shows skin, if I wear leggings — or God forbid, if I wear a bikini — I always get the most opinionated stares from people assuming I’m looking for my next customer to pick up.

Not only is it beyond irritating and embarrassing, especially since it’s typically accompanied with snickers and whispers that I can hear, but it’s disappointing that people seriously don’t think that a young, “pretty girl” would be traveling alone, solely for the sake of traveling!

I met a German guy on a beach in Cuba a few months ago who confirmed that most people think a pretty girl traveling alone is a prostitute. In fact, he said that the locals even warned him about the “pretty Cuban girls who walk up and down the beach, looking for tourists to talk to,” and that it happens in almost every country as well. No wonder why people look at me like I’m going to steal their husbands.

2. No, I’m Not Recovering From A Breakup

While traveling solo to get over a bad breakup is a genius idea, it’s typically not the reason why I travel alone. And by “typically not,” I mean, “it’s not.” I don’t expect every random human I come in contact with to automatically know my relationship status or extreme love of traveling, but don’t automatically assume the reason why I’m alone is because my relationship just failed and poor little helpless me needs something awesome to distract me from it.

I get it, a lot of people think a 27-year-old girl should be in a committed relationship. Well, it’s 20-f*cking-15, and the only commitment I have at the moment is traveling the world, and I think I’m doing a pretty damn good job at it by myself.

3. Yes, I Paid For My Trip

From the questionable glares to the inevitable “who’s taking the picture?” comments on social media, it seems like the number one thought on a lot of people’s minds is “who paid for it?”

Well, to answer your question, Hi, my name’s Alyssa, I have a job just like you do, and I choose to spend all of my money on traveling. There’s no secret sugar daddy, I’d never ask my parents for money and I didn’t start a crowdfunding campaign or win a contest. I paid for it. Just because I’m a “pretty girl” doesn’t mean I’m not capable of earning money and saving it instead of shopping. In fact, I have a motto: “I’d rather buy a plane ticket than a purse,” and I always do.

4. Yes, I’m Judging You Back Now

In my eyes, everyone is equal… until you go and offend me with your toxicity by sending negative vibes my way. I didn’t immediately judge your tacky, unnecessary, decked-out hiking gear that you wore to climb a hill before I noticed you gasping and whispering about my Lululemon-like (I would never pay that much for Spandex) ensemble. Now I’m going to judge you as not only a tourist, but as an ignorant person as well.

5. Fine, You Actually Just Think I’m Pretty

I know, I know, I sound like a huge b*tch for complaining about people starring at me when I travel alone when I really should “be glad that I’m lucky enough to look this way.” But it’s only because I really do work hard without using my looks in order to travel, so it offends me when people judge me because of them.

But I have to be a big girl and also acknowledge that not everyone is toxic and evil… some people really do just think I’m “pretty,” and that’s very nice of them. They probably don’t think I’m smart, or hilarious or that I run my own charity, but hey, I guess that’s better than assuming I’m a prostitute!

 

Read the original article on Huffington Post here: ‘Yes, I’m Pretty and I’m Traveling Alone’

Alyssa Ramos

Alyssa Ramos of @MyLifesATravelMovie is one of the original Solo Female Travel Blogger/influencers for 11+ years! She's been to 140+ Countries, all 7 Continents, 7 World Wonders, 7 Wonders of Nature, and has climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro and Everest Basecamp! Alyssa is also the original creator of Influencer-Hosted Group Trips, and hosts 4-5 adventures per year to unique, remote, and stereotypical "dangerous" places. Tap the Group Trips tab to learn more! After being fully nomadic for 8 years, she now owns an apartment in Tulum and lives part time in Italy with her fiance.

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  • 'Been following you on Instagram for a while now and just read your article! I can so relate! I'm also 28 and regularly travel solo; because I CAN and I don't want to wait for someone to join me :). I also heard al the jokes about going on sex holiday and questions about how i pay for my travels. Pretty annoying, but at the end we get to see to world and experience it in a unique way and they don't! ;) Keep doing what you're doing! :)

    • YES! Good for you girl!!! I definitely know 100% how you feel (obv), so am glad to hear you are able to shake it off and keep traveling anyway! :D

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